“A day in ‘the life’…”


  • The Noughties: Music

    2000s: “the Noughties” the term is a portmanteau of naught, meaning “nothing” or “zero”

    With this decade drawing to a close, I’ve been reflecting on the state of music in the last 10 years. In the era of file sharing like Limewire (2000), iPods (2001), and Youtube (2005), a good album has almost all but become irrelevant in favor of the one-hit-wonder single hyped and discarded (or downloaded for free).

    As much as I complain about the state of R&B (my fav!) these days, I don’t put much effort into seeking out the gems within the mass. I just bought (Amazon.com Downloads) Ginuwine – A Man’s Thoughts and realized I’d been sleeping on Jamie Foxx and Jon B’s 2008 albums (Did anybody know that Jon B HAD an album last year?!). That’s just my point however, one shouldn’t have to “seek” out established artists. Someone let me know, did you have to “seek” out good stuff pre-2000s? Back then you had the radio, live club performances, and the music store, the end. Was hunting through racks of records the “seeking” instead of surfing through Myspace Music?

    XM Satellite: The Future (or no?)
    This brings me to mainstream music and media–I haven’t listened to the radio on the regular since early this decade; it’s been downhill from 2000. These days I refuse to listen to it. Why would I, when I can get ANY song on demand, no commercials? I really wonder about the future of FM radio in the coming decade. Will it go the way of the portable CD player or simply morph to fit the times?

    The Great and Powerful YouTube
    I really feel TRL was put off the air by Youtube. Who waits a whole 24 hours for a 30-second clip when you have video on demand sitting in front of you? My theory for 106 & Park still being on-air is that 1) it’s their “flagship” show (what the hell else comes on BET?) 2) the “target audience”, and I use that term loosely now, is less likely than the general population to have a home computer (see: the technology gap & minorities). Those are random guesses by the way, feel free to debate.

    MySpace, IMEEM, etc.
    On the flip side, technology has made it easier than ever for artists (or aspiring artists…) to get their music out there and heard whether they are washed up and/or under hyped artists from major labels or independent. I think it’s great. Everybody can trash MySpace (in favor of Facebook) if they want to, but really it helped otherwise ignored folks.

    Posted on Oct 10.09 to Culture   4 Comments »

  • X-Posted: Sex is NOT a four letter word!

    via Lipstick in NYC

    Sex is not a four letter word, it’s not dirty, shameful or a topic that should be kept out of daily conversation, sex is natural! So it never ceases to amaze me that there are some of my friends that refuse to talk sex. Why? What is so shameful about talking about our sex lives? As you all know I’m a lesbian (hence the blog name) and I think that a lot of lesbian women limit themselves when it comes to sex. If I had a dime for all the times that I heard the question “You like penetration, then how come you don’t like men?” and believe me I am more than happy to answer. For the record, yes I do enjoy penetration (giving and receiving) and no that does not make me bi-sexual or straight. A lesbian by definition is A woman whose sexual orientation is to women – that’s it. There is no set of sexual practices that are specifically for lesbian women only. To put it in much simpler terms, I get off by being with women, men do nothing for me sexually.

    I decided to write this post after having a few conversations with some friends and of course the topic of sex/relationships came up. Now I always hear questions about my relationship but not my sex life and honestly I feel that the two go hand in hand. Many friends ask me how do I make it last, how do I keep her interested but few every ask about the sex. And if you know me, then you know I LOVE sex and feel that sex is an important part of my life. Well let me share a little something with you…sexual compatibility is important to any intimate relationship, meaning that you and your partner should be on the same page or at least willing to explore. Luckily I found my soulmate and sexual soulmate because my partner is willing to entertain and explore ANY sexual fantasy that I have. Now when I mean explore, I don’t mean whipped cream and handcuffs..we’ve explored bondage, role-play, D/s dynamics, swinging, voyeurism, flogging, play partners…and I could go on. I find it liberating that I can come home with a blond, a midget, a stun gun and a cattle prod and my wife will offer to make drinks for us (j/k) but in all seriousness she wouldn’t be mad. ;)

    The first step to an amazing sex life is communication – be clear on your boundaries, desires and fantasy’s. This first step is important because your lover needs to know what you want or need in the bedroom. Once you share your desires, you may find that your partner has similar fantasies or is at least interested in exploring your desires with you. The second piece of advice that I would give is to never participate in any sexual activity that you do not enjoy. If you participate in a threesome for example just because your girlfriend wants you to, you will be creating even more problems in your relationship – not to mention the guilt and anxiety that you will feel by doing something that you were not comfortable. I encourage ALL lesbians to explore unconventional lesbian sex with your partner or a cute girl ;) . And by unconventional lesbian sex, I mean, anal sex, suck your girlfriends “strap” (believe me the visual alone will having her digging the skin on your back out), elaborate role play (costumes & all), swinging (if there are no jealousy issues), threesomes, dirty talk (be her personal slut), stripping, sex in public etc. So go out and have some good sex, then come back and tell me all about it.

    Posted on Sep 28.09 to Culture   3 Comments »

  • Modern Day Colonialism?

    I wonder what would happen if the U.S. decided to completely annul, say, Puerto Rico’s constitution and implement a take over like the U.K. seems to be aiming to do with the Cayman Islands…

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    BRIDGETOWN, Barbados — The incoming governor of the Cayman Islands, Duncan Taylor, has said that Britain’s move partially to suspend the constitution of the Turks and Caicos Islands (TCI) and assume full administrative control is not a backward step, the Caribbean Media Corporation (CMC) has reported.

    Taylor will take up his position as the new governor of the Cayman Islands in January 2010. He was until recently the British High Commissioner for Barbados and the Eastern Caribbean, a position he held from 2005.

    Taylor rejected the notion that the decision to set aside the elected government in the TCI amounts to modern day colonialism, CMC said.

    “I don’t think it is necessarily a backward step. I think the circumstances which had developed in the Turks and Caicos were truly exceptional, and once the Turks and Caicos remains a British Overseas Territory, in extreme circumstances, the power of the British government to take control still exists,” he told CMC in an interview.

    Local government in the TCI was suspended by Britain in August following a long-running wrangle over alleged corruption.

    A probe was launched in July 2008 into allegations of corruption in land sales, distribution of government contracts and development deals, the granting of voting rights and misuse of public funds.

    In March, Turks and Caicos Prime Minister Michael Misick resigned after an investigation pointed to a “high probability of systemic corruption or other serious dishonesty” among the ruling elite.

    At the time, Misick railed against London’s plans to strip the TCI of its independence, saying: “This is tantamount to being re-colonised. It is a backwards step completely contrary to the whole movement of history.”

    Chris Bryant, Foreign Office minister responsible for the Overseas Territories, said that suspending local government in the TCI was only decided upon after all other options failed.

    Taylor expressed doubt that a similar situation could emerge in the Cayman Islands, as he prepares for his new posting.

    “I hope it won’t come to that in the Cayman Islands and I would be very surprised if it did but the nature of the relationship with the British Overseas Territories is that they are still British overseas territories and that is the constitutional positions,” he told CMC.

    Taylor also responded to critics of the UK government who claim it has no moral authority to tell others how to operate, given recent scandals that have emerged within its own ranks such as the recent expenses scandal.

    “I think we are dealing very vigorously with the expenses scandal. There has been some pretty tough action taken already against a small number actually of the worst miscreants in the expenses scandal and a major review of the way parliamentary expenses are operated in Westminster,” Taylor told CMC.

    He added: “I think that the leaders of all the parties in the parliament of Westminster have committed themselves to very tough action to ensure that a system is put in place that is more transparent and accountable and to ensure that some of the difficulties which arose and which were made public over this summer don’t recur.”–CNN

    Posted on Sep 28.09 to the real world   3 Comments »

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